Here are my top 10 tips to make your wedding first dance really special for both you and your guests!
1). Learn at least 1 good step. A basic waltz style box step (tips here) or a basic cha cha, or even something very simple that you can repeat is a great way to look as if you really know how to dance together. If you at least work out a simple move where you can move in unison and repeat throughout the song you will look like you know what you are doing!
2). Practice!!! This shouldn’t be a chore, it should be a really fun way for you and your partner to spend some quality time together in the lead up to the wedding. So much of wedding preparation is done separately – such as the dress for example – and the last few weeks can get so manic, it is great to have an excuse to put on some music, hold each other close and have a dance! Why not get a bottle of wine in to get you relaxed and in the mood, and just enjoy yourselves! You will feel a lot less inhibited on the day if you are used to whizzing around the living-room!
3). Work out an ending. This can range from a ‘ta-da’ position to a lift if you’re feeling confident, to something as basic as a big kiss. It will signify the end of your routine and suggest your guests join you for the rest of the song or for the next song.
4). It is nice to give the routine a formal start too. I often like to start with the man offering his hand as an invitation to dance. Don’t be too sudden to take it too girls – give it a moment’s pause to consider his offer!!
5). Think about your song well. It will be something that you will always remember, and you will be hearing it a lot if indeed you do practice, so make sure you both like it! It is perfect if you have a special song, but if you don’t then try and think about what sort of tempo and style suits you both. Slow songs are lovely but very slow songs can often be tricky if you aren’t used to keeping in time with the music. More up tempo but still romantic numbers can be a great alternative. See our post here for deciding on a song, or our songs page here for more ideas.
If you still can’t decide then why not mix some songs together! How about a slow song leading to something a little more up-tempo, or even a big mega-mix! We can mix the tracks for you if you like. See our Extras Page for more info.
6). Do a bit of research. There are thousands of wedding dance clips on YouTube from classic to outrageous! Take the ideas you like and see what you can realistically achieve.
7). If you plan on using live music for your first dance make sure the band are aware that you have had lessons and / or a routine planned. If you are rehearsing to a track then make sure the band will be following the exact version you are practicing to. Even if is their own demo! I have had one couple who we diligently rehearsed to the demo from the band’s own website, only for them to play it half the speed and with extended solos! They made a remarkable success despite the difference but it did certainly take them by surprise!
Similarly if you are using a DJ make sure he / she is aware that you have something worked out and knows whether you intend to walk onto the floor as the music starts or begin in the centre of the floor. Also make sure you have more than one copy of the CD if you have a special song and that it will play OK on the DJ’s equipment. Or indeed whether they prefer an mp3 sent in advance.
8). The other people to let on on the act that you have been practicing are the photographer and videographer. Especially if there are some special moves you want captured! Think about where they are best to stand too to capture the perfect shots.
9). Make sure you are both confident if you attempt a lift. Lifts can look spectacular and can really impress, but not if it ends up with both of you on your bottoms and a slipped disc! Don’t be put off if you do want to try, but it is certainly wise to get professional teaching to make sure you are doing things correctly and safely.
10). Get a lesson or two! It doesn’t have to be a big commitment. Many of our couples have just one session with fantastic results! Lessons are in your home or suitable location and I promise that it will be lots of fun!
And my final point if all else fails ……..
ENJOY YOURSELVES!!! If you feel great you will look great! If you feel embarrassed it will show and your guests will feel embarrassed for you, however if you smile and have fun will make you both look fantastic and everyone will love watching. Your guests think you are both wonderful and really want to see you enjoying yourselves and sharing your love for each other. Make this is a moment to cherish and a truly special part of your big day!